People dating with herpes
(At the time, many doctors and other health care providers believed this to be the case, although a number of research studies had already suggested otherwise.) So, I decided to keep quiet.
For three years, I had a boyfriend who never knew I had herpes.
Little did I know my worries would extend far beyond that concern.I was still uncomfortable about bringing up the subject, but now I didn't have much of a choice.I didn't date for awhile, but inevitably, I met someone.I had always insisted on using condoms, which can reduce the risk of transmission.
My selling point, however, was telling him that approximately one in four people has herpes and, statistically speaking, he undoubtedly had slept with someone who had herpes. He thought about that for a minute and then realized he might not know.You have nothing to worry about." I appreciated his honesty and knew I had to tell him that he was the one who had something to worry about. I explained that I had herpes, and that was why I was being so cautious.I told him that to my knowledge I had never spread the virus to anyone else, and that I was very careful.When I confronted my friend about the situation, I asked if he knew that he had herpes. It was hard enough to face the fact that we'd had sex, or tried to, and it was much harder to cope with the fact that I had caught an incurable sexually transmitted disease.