Dating a man ten years older than me


12-Jun-2020 08:29

It’s not new money (or young money) where he wants to go out and blow it on stupid things; it’s the earned life he’s been creating for years. There’s very little fighting or problems that pop up. I like that security, and the thought that with him, money isn’t an issue.”“My advice to everyone is date somebody who is older than you. I love dating older because then there is less drama and B. And while our pairing may seem like a bad combination, this relationship was the best 10 months of my life.If you’re about to enter a relationship with someone who’s older than you, there are a few things you need to know.Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too. We worked in the same profession, had similar interests, and shared common philosophical views. So what if he was wrinkly, in all the places you might expect? There was zero jealousy on both sides, and I never saw him check out another woman -- due to him being satisfied, of course, but also him being well-seasoned in how to respect the opposite sex. Another lesson in dating: a fling with someone in your professional/personal circle is more often than not bad news. I have a friend who’s been married to someone for more than a decade who is 20 years older than her. Sure, Mary-Kate Olsen and Olivier Sarkozy make their 17-year age gap look like no big deal, but what’s it really like to date someone significantly older than you?

And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about younger females often gravitate toward mature men.

When I don’t mention his age upfront, people think we are only five years apart. He likes me because I keep things young, fresh, and really funny.” “Dating up is a good idea if you are looking for someone who is mature.

I guess that’s because he looks really young still and has all of his hair. I like my current boyfriend, even though it has only been three months, because I feel safe, comfortable, and secure with him.

I dated a guy who was 15 years older than me, and boy did I learn a few things.

We ended the relationship because we both wanted different things for our future; he was a divorced father of two and I was in my last year of uni.

They discuss the pitfalls and unexpected advantages of dating someone older, and occasionally (but not always), wiser.